Deirdre ~~ so good to "see" you again! WOW! thos were tough weeks you endured! Each "step" fprward in healing must feel fanTAStic to you! You've come a LONG way, Baby ( remember that one?) . Yse, I'm THAT old to remember it.
Going anlong with your preps for gastric surgery, I ran across info on the topic while checking other info on what I am looking into. I had said about a yr ago, if I couldn't make it THIS time with SSizing, I would consider the GS as well for myself. Meanwhile, at DD's wedding, y AZ niece and her bf told me they have my sister & her hubby following the Gabriel Method ( I had never heard of him). Truth be told, they follow his thinking in the bk but the bf does the cooking for them all and he does NOT like vegies in the least, so he basically cooks early Atkins only for them and they eat what her comes up with. That is pro/fats ONLY..and my sis has said she "fudegs with some green now and then but for now feels going almost completely Pro/Fat is the way for her to lose, as she \dropped 10 but over a course of a couple or 3 months! That's THEM and not ME! I must have the frsh and LOVE, LOVE, LOVE SSizing for that reason. It cuts some carbs but you still get those good ones as needed and fresh is ongoing! ANyway... Jon Gabriel. as it turns out is NOT about eating all pro/fats. He is about re-training the brain to shift thinking after coming to terms with the indiv's specific life pain that causes them to respond to food the worong way. I mean THAT makes PERFECT sense to me...like that bk " it's not what you're eating, it's what's eating you!". Every diet out there teaches their way of eating but which iones are effective and work for everyone long term? NONE. Even SSizing. WHY? B we don't address the inner drive... and to do that he only askes that you go back to the time you first remember beginning to gain wt and for me , it was when my mother remarried and I gained 20 lbs that summer! ( whuch told me my sis was right when she mentioned we both have abandonment issues). I hadn't put a lable on it, just knew I had and was continuing to develop a scenario of needing my mother in order to feel safe and ok. SO the initial prob prob started as a toddler with disharmony in the family and then her divorcing my father ( using that term lightly) and the move to a small town whene I learned to feel as secure as I could with Mom co0mmunting to Dallas to work daily and me only seeing her on maybe Saturdays when we were at the laundro-mat. So her marri9ege was one more blow to that security. He was a nice man and all was fine...only for me..the m,ove to big city, not knowing anyone, no one to connect with during the day and starting a new school for 6th grade all contributed to my 20 lb gain that siummer after my life of a skinny , actiive, though lonely existence. Anyway... everyone has theirs..their issues..and my story is just that. mine and not NEARELY as serious as some who suffer abuse and such, but for me, it was life altering to feel alone and lonely,,,,to feel insecure about whether Mom would be killed on the rd commuting, ,,,,of whther this new marrieage would put even further distance between us because she had someone NEW to share her little free time with. Fortunately, I was aging into pre-teen and teen yrs when little connection was fine with me. I always loved her but she was critical that I didn't dress ( polyester) and think as she did, so we had some ins and outs as all teens seem to have w/ parents...but love endured. She loved as best she could... and that was tempered with a need to control. After losing her this summer, I felt and still am dealing with the loss I feel so deeply, I avoid all thought of her. Of course. I now have to take all that out and move beyond my food responses in 0order to deal effectively with stresses in life. SSizing is my way to lose of choice, and addressing the emotional wt ( that ugly word/ obesity) is a MUST for the SSizing to be effective long term. I know this due to the 9 yrs I have been SSizing. Success at 73 lbs down, then re-gain..then 32 lbs down,,,then re-gain etc until this past yr of 24 down and then her death,m and my carb-fest and regain..plus 9!! So... I am learning to become my own BEST FRIEND. I am acknowledging my thoughts, but NOT giving them the attention they wou;d demand because theyt are NEGATIVE and non-productive. To do this" head wor"k, I listen to JG's download, read his book, read online info from his Free Stuff section, am beginning to meditate after some 33 yrs away from it ( and for anyhone who is unfamiliar... it can be in the form of prayer). and am probably going to look into other bks related to this thinking SHIFT so I can resolve the "what's eating me" issues and lose wt for long term. Jon Gabriel has lost 226 lbs..the 225 lost 7 yrs ago when he was over 400 lbs...and his work has been worldwide in helping ppl but Australia is his home. I am going to try doing this without paying anything for classes and such... but it will probably take me a while to make it be effective, on my own.
Sorry to go on so long, but I want to make sure YOU and others know that I believe every possible avenue to weight loss that ppl choose, is just as valid as another, because we ALL are having to find our way and try and tap into our specific needs. Gastric surgery is one of those avenues. I know about 7 who have had it over the yrs and one as recently as a month ago. I am not in close touch with these 7, so am not sure of all the pros and cons with each, but again... it's INDIVIDUAL and we will never have a cookie cutter kind of resolution to our wt issues. I did learn today that there are foods that rritate the stomach lining and those can never again be eaten after Gastric Surgery. Here's the lonk if you want to see if it rings truwe with what you know to be true from yo9ur professional couselors: www./thegabrielmethod.com/category/health-reports
You are NOT alone and as you are thinking of us here, you can be sure we too are thinking of you, Deirdre! Your surgery then, was knee or foot? or both? I also ordered a book called The Trigger Point Therapy Workbook which is on the technical side in some descriptions, but the ease of finding where to apply pressure to stop transferred pain ( kinda like accupuncture but by use of finger, small ball or a ther hook ( hope to get this at Christma) to help press area on the back without needing another person to do it...and this relieves the pain from fibromyalgia knots or muscle tightness, etc.
I am down 2 this wk and it's a start but I'm not going to dwell on the time it takes. Progress is nice. I haven't had a straight L1 day yet, but apparently the nuts and unsweet coconut aren't throwing a wrench in the works. Still drinking caffeine coffee too. That's a given for me..but am on decaf tea. Still using Splenda and pink packets...still trying to reduce sodium intake. Will also try fewer processed meats and less fatty meats. Did find I had the WRONG Diasy sour cream in LIGHT but used some anyweay...darn it! HOW did I overlook that? Or did DH buy it inadvertently? No matter.. will get the right kind next trip to the store.
Does your work require standing or walking around?
I have sorting to do where I made little piles by my desk. Instead of finding places for it, I should get some of it OUT of the house completely! Which memories- items to cast aside though??? This is probably PART of the healing I need to do. Managing a life WITHOUT padding around myself with fat and stuff in an attempt to feel safe and grounded. I come from a line of "padders" . My mom's mother, my mother, my sister... all stacked / sister still living and stacking..and I fight that tendency with a passion, but somehow it's still an ongoing battle. THAT is why I beleive it is tired into the weight issue. Surrounding ourselves with fat and things fills a void of sorts... a false sense of protection and well-being. I truly believe the hoarder ppl on the shows, display severe behaviors for the same reasons... they are emotionally attached to the stuff that almost kills them ( by way of stacking hazard and filth) and destroys real human relationships because of it. Watch the tears when they are faced with letting go of their stuff. I am thankful niot to have that situation but my office desk has such a hodge podge assortment of things tied to Mom, each of our kids, and yrs past in greeting cards rec'd??...it MUST be part of the emotional obesity behavior.
Come on back as often as possible. Nice to hear you are progressing, even though it's still not easy and hasn't reached the point of FUN yet . ther will come a day...... picture yourself out flying a kite or anything you enjoy doing out in the sunshine. It can only help things along to envision a brighter day in your healing prcess. sandi